How to be resilient when faced with job search rejection

Ways to stay resilient when faced with job search rejection


Rejection is hard to hear, hard to read, hard to process, and for others hard to overcome. For many job seekers, their email is full of rejection emails which can be tough even to the strongest people. There are candidates who view rejection as a measure of their worth which leaves them questioning their self-worth, qualification, and even their experiences. In most cases, Such job seekers experience a large amount of stress, hopelessness, anxiety, and loneliness. Few people talk about rejection. I am yet to see a social media post about someone receiving a rejection email. Negative emotions however valid, will not get you hired. As a job seeker, you need to cultivate resiliency, have a better outlook of your career goal, and bounce back. Below are some ways to cope with the emotional and mental strain that comes with rejection and tips to be more resilient while job searching.

  1. Take time to process your emotions

Allow yourself to feel the pain of the rejection as it is pointless trying to fight the emotions.  Feeling disheartened after a rejection is natural and you should strive to be proactive to improve the current emotional situation. Lean on your support system. Talk to trusted family, friends, and network about your feeling. It will make you feel good and you might get a few advice on job search strategies and pointers to relieve the stress. Take a break and indulge in some self-care activities. It is a nice way to give your mind and emotions a break. Binge-watch your favorite series, ride a bike, dance, travel out of town for the weekend, read a book just look for a way to be your own cheerleader.

2. Ask for feedback

Asking for feedback after a job rejection is extremely important because;

  •  You get valuable insight on how to improve your job search process.
  •   You Might learn something new about yourself.
  •   It indicates a commitment to self-improvement by one’s ability to handle feedback and constructive criticism.
  • Keeps the door open for future opportunities.
  •  It offers closure.

3. Redefine yourself

Rebuild and look for ways to increase and maintain your confidence. Aim to build strong job esteem by reminding yourself of your accomplishments and capabilities. The job search process has many instances that can deflate your confidence but by recognizing your strength and abilities your job esteem will always be at an all-time high. In the process of redefining yourself, Polish up on your personal brand to be more in tune with prospective employers and clients. Differentiate yourself from competition to build trust and admiration from future employers.  Then review your CV, Portfolio, Cover letter, and work on your interview skills to reflect your personal brand.

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4. Refine your search

Have you considered that you might not have been a good fit for the job you got rejected?  Look at the job specification all through to the rejection point and ask yourself if the role excited you enough to be in it on a daily basis. Sadly, many job seekers apply for roles they are least excited and passionate about something which is visible to interviewers.  Refine your search and apply to those roles that excite you and are unique to your skill set and expectations. Appy to roles that are in line with your career goals as you are sure to excel and be challenged enough to grow. This can also mean being open to considering a new career path.

5. Always have plan B

Do not put all your hopes in one job application in the belief that you are the perfect fit. No matter how exciting the opportunity is, do not apply and wait to hear from that one recruiter. Be smart enough to pursue multiple opportunities such that when one fails to materialize, you have others waiting in the wings.

6. Keep a positive attitude

Job seeking process can generally make you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster. One day you are excited and hopeful about the opportunities available, the next day you are tired, frustrated, and stressed by the whole process. No matter how you feeling, it is important to keep a positive attitude as it will affect the outcome. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and avoid harboring negativity. Be flexible enough to embrace change where and when necessary as it will make you more marketable. And finally do not give up. You can not change the past but you can always look towards the future.

Every job seeker should aim to build on their career resilience. While facing rejection may seem like the end of the world at that particular time, the reality is that it is an opportunity to learn more about yourself and the industry you are in. Also, Andy Cope in his book The little book of emotional intelligence suggests that we come equipped with some ordinary magic which is the ability to bounce back from adversity.  So be sure to tap into your reserve of ordinary magic and see beyond that pile of rejection emails.

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